Wednesday, May 7, 2008

Evaluating Our Lives

This is part of a series of weekly columns on Spirituality and Healing. This column will take a look at how we can heal ourselves by sometimes looking at things in a different perspective. It will always be informative and a learning experience, for those who listen to it with an open mind. This column does not seek to offend anyone, but it will exercise the right to speak ones beliefs freely, and to share them with others who are interested in living by the same principles. It is up to you whether you hear these words with open ears or a with a closed mind....

There comes a time in every person's life when they have to look at the things they have done, what they have accomplished or not, the people in their life, and where they are right at that moment, and measure it against what they had aspired to or hoped to attain. Some of us do this every New Year, others, it might be a birthday habit to account for the manner in which they have used their time. Others still will only do it once or twice in their lives. Then there are some who will do it in their old age, or when preparing to meet their reward - or punishment, whichever the case may be, and atone for their perceived "sins". Yet, we all come to that point eventually.

We all start out with goals, dreams, desires. We may or may not reach them. We may get turned around on our Path and end up somewhere completely different than where we started out going towards. It's all in the way that you walk your Path, what lessons you find along the way that you think you need at the time. One thing leads to another, and pretty soon you find yourself in an entirely new place. Then you stop and look around and try to figure out how you got there, and whether or not you want to stay on that Path. This can lead us to evaluate our lives.

One thing I have learned is that we may think we get distracted from our goals, our purpose, by going out on a side track and exploring new lessons or new ideas, but we don't. In the long run, every single lesson we learn somehow leads us to where we need to be on our Path. Is there a Master Plan? Ask yourself that question. You know the answer. You know why you chose this lifetime, what lessons you came here to learn, and what your mission is in this lifetime. When we find these answers, our Path can become easier. But many of us struggle with day to day issues instead of working on that Master Plan. But be assured, when you do get back to looking for your life's purpose, it will still be there, and you will find that you have been learning what you needed to learn to fulfill that purpose all along. No matter where you thought you got lost at :)

The important thing is to stop and think about where you are going every once in a while, let your inner self out to explain things to you or listen to your inner voice in stillness and silence. They know the Way, and will guide you, if you but listen.

The way that we learn to accept responsibility for our lives is by evaluating it occasionally. See what you have been up to, whether you acted wrongly or made the right decisions, they are all lessons to be learned from. If you learn from your mistakes, and don't keep making the same mistakes over and over again, then you are moving right along on your Path. If we don't stop to evaluate our lives, we may never see the mistakes we've made, we may never learn from them as we should.

Acting responsibly in your life means being responsible for all of your actions. We can only do this if we stop and think about them. Decisions should be thought over carefully, knowing that they will affect the Web of Life, and all beings in it, in many different ways. Your decisions make the Web of Life reverberate, and what you do will come back to you. The vibrations of the Web of Life are like ripples in a pond, reaching outwards, constantly moving. Every thing we do will cause an effect somewhere else. You've heard about the butterfly wing effect, and it is true, what we do can affect others in ways we do not even realize. If you take into consideration the reverberations of your decisions on the Web of Life, then you are truly acting responsibly. We do this by becoming conscious of our actions, our words, our thoughts. We do this by being responsible for every thing we do.

When you evaluate your life, you are opening yourself up to seeing the patterns behind your actions. By doing this, it will help you to learn your lessons from your mistakes and to make better decisions in the future. It will allow you to become more responsible for your life, your actions, your decisions, and your impact on the Web of Life.

Take some time, evaluate that which you are, what you have done, how you have done it, without placing blame, just realizing and becoming aware of the whole being that is you in the now. How did you get to where you are now? What decisions led you there? How have you used your opportunities? And, most importantly, what can you learn from it all?

We all reach the point of evaluating our lives eventually, why not do it now? Help yourself to become responsible for your life, for your actions, for your decisions by spending some time with yourself. Be responsible for your life by finding out what makes you tick. And don't forget to laugh at your mistakes, for only when we can laugh at ourselves, can we heal.

I wish you well in your quest, may you find the answers you seek...


Michelle is a healer and a Caretaker for Mother Earth. Her belief is that through healing ourselves, we can heal Mother Earth, and her teachings reflect this belief. These articles are a form of Give-Away, and as such, are offered freely to any who will hear. 

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